Squeaky Moore and Ashley Shante are making things happen with the new film, “Father’s Day?” The film explores the impact of fatherless homes on Black Americans. A behind-the-scenes clip is below. The bottom clip is the trailer for the film.
In order to change this epidemic we are going to have to start at the beginning. Sorry to say but there is probably a group of people that are too far along to change, but we have to begin somewhere.Where do we have to begin? We have to begin by valuing our sons and daughters. I mean really valuing them by showing that they matter in our everyday lives. This will require spending time with them, doing what they want to do.Sorry, but you took the time to bring them here so now you are going to have to put aside some of your free time for them. Work, social life, even your love life will regularly have to take a back seat so that you can spend time with your children doing what they want to do. They will then begin to value themselves, their culture, and their cultural opposite sex!Why do you think black men won't marry a black woman but will marry someone of another culture/race even though that person may be not be desirable by their own culture/race? It is because somehow that other person secretly makes them feel valuable, and better about themselves just by showing interest in them.Here is my point: A man who really values himself cannot let his children grow up without his complete involvement in their lives!! That starts with his immediate caregiver showing him how much he is truly valued by them.
i agree w u brother. i am raising both of my kids b/c the moms chose to do other things, and neither of them show me any SORT of appreciation for the great job i am doing. both kids keep ALL A's and a B on their report cards while being involved in sports...and a single father is doing this. i get appreciation from everywhere else but the mothers of my kids...
to expound on my previous post...i teach both of my young ones ( a 13 yr old girl and 7 yr old son) how important it will be in their future to choose the right mate...and how important it is for them to see how their friends w/o fathers at home will turn out. my daughter already sees this. my son, i teach him now that he has to be a good father, as my father was to me, and how i am to him so we can continue this cycle....i have dated women w father issues and they really dont trust men at all. u cant blame them, but we can try to change the future..
This epidemic should not solely be laid at the foot of the black male father. Too many black women who when they have a falling out with the father i.e divorce or separation take the children and do not permit the father to interact in the children’s lives. They do this as a way to hurt the father regardless of wether he is a good parent or not. The old "they don't need a father, I can do it all by myself" syndrome. The courts don't help, they give custody to the women 95% of the time even if the father is the better parent. The end result is young black males growing up not knowing how to be men. No matter what any one thinks a women cannot teach a young male how to be a man, just like I cannot teach a young female how to be a women. So now we have this problem of black males not being responsible parents. I think the blame goes both ways.Both black men and black women need to wake up and think about the welfare of the children but I fear it may already be too late. Too bad so sad.......for us as a people.
Anonymous, why do u want credit for something u SUPPOSED to do anyway? The few men who do take responsibility for their children, kill me with this sentiment, as though u deserve an award for something black sistas do everyday!! Where are the sistas awards ands and accolades!! And to speak on ur comment about courts not helping fathers is a complete falsehood. I have a bitter ex and she tried to keep my girls from me. I kept her in court til I recieved joint custody. I wasnt trying to be mean to her (the mother), just want whats best for our daughters, which is both of us in their lives.
Why do you think black men won't marry a black woman but will marry someone of another culture/race even though that person may be not be desirable by their own culture/race? It is because somehow that other person secretly makes them feel valuable, and better about themselves just by showing interest in them.---------No, it's because Black men have been colorstruck since day one. It has nothing to do with race,in a sense that he chose a non-Black partner to be with. Not all Non-Black Women are the same. What brothers want in this sense,is for a woman to emulate the default (White) female so he can have his chance at roleplaying. There is more reasons as to why people are dating outside of their race -some are beautiful reasons,and some are very ugly,self-hating reasons. Black women have been disregarded and discarded because of racio-misogyny that Whites have endorsed and Black men have perpetuated against them,which makes Black females seem to be the least desirable option. An author once said "Black women are to be f-ed,not loved" . White men have been stating this for years in so many ways,and eventually Black men decided to agree with them,leaving them in the dust for some Other,because at least she's not "Her".
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