tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017678419183166735.post5833763220897036902..comments2024-01-29T03:12:50.648-08:00Comments on Your Black Woman: I Am/ Am Not My Hair by Donisha AdamsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017678419183166735.post-87475788044765032252008-01-24T11:19:00.000-08:002008-01-24T11:19:00.000-08:00Obviously you missed the whole point of the articl...Obviously you missed the whole point of the article, "I Am Not My Hair" which was taken from the song by Idia.Arie. The whole point, my brother, is to realize that yes long hair may be attractive to you, but black women (or people in general) are so much more than hair. Hair, the non living fibrous strands that emmerse from the cerebrum in your scalp, is one of those physical features that shouldn't be top priority when compatibilty, dating, or rendering a job is concerened. Now, granted physical attraction is the spark that gets us interested in someone, but long hair or any other physcial feature should not prevent you from meeting or dating some one; that would be shallow or inmature. Why are you asking how you should feel about what attracts you individually anyway? If that's what you like, then don't be so flimsy about your stance. So then the question becomes, what cultural experiences (or lack of) have you encountered to elicit such confusion from you about the length of a woman's hair and her date-ability? Yes, it is hard for brothers and sisters who are misinformed about what they really want when dating.~LydiaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017678419183166735.post-64310709969168830392008-01-23T16:54:00.000-08:002008-01-23T16:54:00.000-08:00How should I feel as a man who likes long hair? S...How should I feel as a man who likes long hair? Short haired women are just unattractive to me. Does that mean I have to go out on dates with them or that I am a bad person for not wanting to? It's hard for brothers!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9017678419183166735.post-47954814446168007502008-01-23T10:32:00.000-08:002008-01-23T10:32:00.000-08:00Being reared in a rural town in the south during t...Being reared in a rural town in the south during the 80s and 90s, I definitely can sympathize with you. Limited perspectives of hair and culture leads to a limited vision of what is accecptable or unaccecptable or as my grandmother would preach -proper etiquette and improper etiquette. Now that I have moved to a major city in the south and work as an educator with a new generation of students who feel free to wear their hair in multiple styles regardless of what others think of them or their heritage; I have begun to think that maybe the generation of the 20 and 30 somethings just need a little more time to grow within our professions and be in leadership positions so that we can accept different hair styles that challenge the norm as "professional." Waiting for things to change should never be a viable solution; however, it seems to be the only choice we have in this matter as well as many others. ~LydiaDiva Lydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13586426325475174737noreply@blogger.com